Tara Brach writes in her book, Radical Acceptance, “The boundary of our acceptance is the boundary of our freedom.” I am trying to remember this moment by moment in my own life as I play with my potential of accepting more while I argue with my habit of resisting what violates my sense of right or wrong and desirous or repulsive.
The truth of this teaching is obvious. To the extent that we reject or resist, we shrink wrap our joy & tightly tether our peace. It is in the acceptance of what is that we can breathe freely, experience fully, and explore curiously. It is in the YES to what is that we say NO to small, congested reactions that dwell in limitation and ego.
Accepting doesn’t mean we endorse, approve, or are enthused with what is. It simply asks us to acknowledge and settle into what is while holding a steady drishti on what could become from this moment. It allows us to adjust and recalibrate from a place of ease and steadiness versus emotionally slinging from edge to edge jaw clenched & hair raised.
This moment is a miracle. Whether we are in good space (sukha) or bad space (dukha) in our choice doesn’t change that it is a miracle. It simply affects whether we see vividly in color the miracle or remain blind to it.
Accepting doesn’t ask us to ignore injustice or stay fixed to what holds us back. It does encourage us to remember that we are bigger than a situation, and we are most powerful when we move from love & freedom.
We are not defined by a circumstance. By expanding our freedom, we are less susceptible to brokenness and suffering, more likely to inflate what we vision for our life by allowing what doesn’t serve to dissolve, and thus, more able to curate transformation.